Read our tips how to win Over Stubborn Children.
The battles with the older of my two girls began when she was a
toddler. I have got photos of the tiny thing standing a good distance away
from me at the park, arms folded defiantly, eyes glaring as if to say
“No way am I doing what you want, lady!” I even have a videotape of her
saying indignantly into the camera, “I'm a mommy, too—of my dollies!!! I'm
in charge now!!!”
Some kids are just built to butt heads with their parents. Call it
stubborn or strong-willed or whatever you like. If you are living with
one of these guys, you know that straightforward methods of getting them
to follow directions or behave often do not work. They want to be in
charge. But, of course, so do you!
Instead of resorting to the usual verbal combat (aka yelling or
pleading), try my so-called sneaky or judo parenting strategies instead.
Being sneaky doesn't have to mean being underhanded or manipulative
with your children. Rather, “sneaky parenting’ is actually ‘smart
parenting,” explains parenting educator Sharon Silver of Proactive
Parenting, in Tucson, AZ, and author of Stop Reacting and Start Responding.
“It means approaching your kids sideways instead of straight on, and
using calmness, respect, and creativity to get what you want
accomplished.”
Rachel Rudman, a mom of two and a pediatric occupational therapist in
Cedarhurst, NY, supports this approach. “In my private practice, I
constantly recommend what could be referred to as ‘sneaky parenting’
strategies, and they work for me at home, too,” she says. Her take: It's
simply human nature for everyone—children, too—to want to be included
in decisions about their daily habits. “With many kids who need just a
little more control, asking their opinion sometimes and giving them
choices often are easy answers to getting them to do what ‘we’ want,”
she notes. Try the following tricks and your child will probably even
think it was all her idea!
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